Romance: Chick Flicks vs. Soft Porn

Apr 22nd 2007
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Romance is dead, they say.

So, what remains? What is our consolation prize? These days, the world is harsh, or can seem to be, and we need comforting. Body and soul. Taste the anxiety, the needs that empower as much as they threaten to overpower us, like a stranger struggling to get a grip on our being — who are we, they ask? There is no answer.

This is what I’ve found, over the early stages of this weekend, after an entirely far too mundane week of work: there might be no clear answer, but I’d place my bets on these two as the future of romance — chick flicks or soft porn.

What? You were expecting something serious? ;)

Catch and Release

It all started on one dark and stormy Friday, just this past Friday to be exact, when spiffy coerced, uhm, invited me along to watch a movie with two of her girlfriends — darling creatures called Felicia and Hex. She apologised in advance, but there was no avoiding it — it was gonna be a chick flick.

(Over a Peranakan-style dinner, we discovered spiffy’s violent streak towards the male members of society, but that’s another story for another time. Maybe.)

Chick flick in question turned out to be a Jennifer Garner vehicle, Catch and Release. Strange thing was, when the end credits started rolling, we had three rather unsatisfied ladies (“So clichéd,” said one. Another exclaimed, “I saw that coming a mile away.”) and quite unexpectedly, one happy chap.

In my defense, it had both Kevin Smith and Juliette Lewis. I mean smart and sexy in one movie — what more can you ask for? (Lewis being the smart one, of course…) Didn’t believe the main romance for half a second, but I found endearing the way Lewis and Smith’s characters slowly danced around each other through his substitute-father-adoption of her son in a most “That’s not cool, sir” manner. Kevin Smith is the man.

Also, I really believed that the two best friends of the dead bridegroom really loved the secretly philandering bastard. One scene had both guys duking it out on who the real best friend was. Hilarious, but I was thinking, hey, when I’m dead and gone, I’d like to have to have that — my best buds fighting over who knew me better. Infantile? This is what guys do, man. My faith in the world is renewed.

The Wedding Date

Round Two came the next day, when I dropped by Nisa’s place. She told me not to disturb her as she had very important work to do. Three minutes passed. She was on Yahoo! Messenger, then scrounged around the vast DVD collection for a film. I was hopeful; perhaps a Wong Kar-Wai or some François Ozon?

“Kenny, we’re not watching any of those rubbish! We’re watching a chick flick!”

Right. What have I done to deserve this? Never mind, stupid question.

Device of punishment took the form of The Wedding Date, where Debra Messing hires high-class escort Dermot Mulroney to act as her boyfriend to her sister’s wedding, what with her ex in attendance as the best man and all. Dubious premise? Maybe, but they filmed it in England so that’s automatically better, yes?

What we did we learn? Nisa really likes cats, I don’t, and just like children, they love me. Damn. (I didn’t say it’d be anything related to the film, did I?) Oh, and her cat’s named Kata. After Hidetoshi Nakata. Don’t ask.

Fortunately for us, Jason arrived.

She insisted he was sick and needed sandwiches. Meaning he was to drive us three to Ikano for food. I suggested tapau cos we had wine at home. Jason and I looked at the sandwiches and decided we needed more food. And ice-cream.

Saturday evening at the mall. Too many families, too many kids. I realised that in this day and age, we were the New Family — three single friends going out to a shopping complex to bungkus some makan, and somehow having a ball of it, laughing and making fun of everything. We’re happy and I guess that’s as good as anything. :)

I’m calling them Mom and Dad.

The Lover

Back at the house:

Jason, why are you spanking my cat?” (Specifically, the ass, of which a major topic it represents, for us anyway; for example, how one of us has no ass, another plenty, and one just right. I’ll leave you, dear readers, to figure which is whose.)

“Ow! Ow! That’s my breast, you moron!” (To Kata the cat, who hasn’t been de-clawed yet. Nisa believes in talking to her cats. In her own cat language. We get stares from the neighbouts.)

“Who cut your hair?” — and Jason replies, “The gardener.” (I’m not allowed to post a picture, but I assure you, it’s not that bad. If you’re keen on that whole Ah Beng Casanova thing. Jason’s not.)

It says a lot about us that we are able to do all this while Tony Leung Ka Fai seduces and beds a precocious fifteen-year-old French girl in 1929 French Colonial Vietnam. The Lover is practically soft porn and all we can do is banter and bitch back and forth. Well, not all we can do; some of our attention is respectfully directed to the TV screen. Ahem.

Romance may be dead, but I think we’ve stumbled onto something far better, something that may just last longer. If nothing else, expectations are definitely lower… (We just need the Datin and the Family would be complete.)

Close to midnight:
“Stop playing with yourself!”

Yeah. I’m gonna blame Kata for that.

64 Comments

  1. 1 am the first..sometimes hanging wif a couple of frens doing whatever it is..soft porn or chick flicks or just drinking wine..is the way to enjoy life isnt?..your blog is indeed a blog..just gav me so many things to procrastinate..quality of chick flicks..how crowded shopping malls ar..my love for animals..not …hahah..hope u had fun..

  2. Kenny Mah

    lotsofcravings,
    Yay for being the first! Yeah, had mucho fun hanging out with my friends — the Family for this century, perhaps. I guess it’s the same for many.

    Wah, now you are using me as an excuse for your procrastination? Pandai-nya. I wonder what people will do next — say I’m the one who recommended them to watch soft porn? Hahaha…

    P.S. Perhaps a disclaimer is needed: The Lovers isn’t really soft porn (though certain scenes do merit the comparison); it’s actually one classy, meaningful film. Ahem. Even if we only concentrated on the certain scenes, haha.

  3. sulee

    aiya i tersalah post, sorry if this is duplicate - ur site is special, comment link is on top of the entry. Anyway here goes.

    “Kenny, you are the LUCKY one during movie nights! got 3 chicks to accompany you! never mind if your are just watching it out of a 27″ TV!

    Does movie preferance determine our level of intelligence? hmmm i wonder….

    what kinda films do you like?”

    yours truly,
    Ms Horat

  4. Kenny Mah

    No worries, Ms. Horat. I dah jawab pertanyaan you di entri sebelum ni, tapi boleh tampal lagi di bawah:

    sulee,
    Hahaha, I’d say that’d be the reward for having to watch the film. It was at a cineplex, actually. The second chick flick was the next day, at home with a guy friend and a girl friend. But ya, I get what you mean.

    Does movie preferance determine our level of intelligence?

    Dangerous question that. Let’s just say intelligence in reading a film isn’t something I’m particular about. So often, friends avoid certain films because they are worried they have to think (which is another problem altogether), or worse, leave the cinema not knowing what happened.

    At times like these, I tell them not to worry about the thinking but to ask themselves if they felt anything while watching the movie. The feel of the movie, the emotions raised by it, that’s very important to me.

    One of my favourite movies is Wong Kar-Wai’s In the Mood for Love. Many of my friends tell me they just don’t get it. Did they, or…? The story isn’t important here. The atmosphere, the palpable tension, the electricity beneath, that’s what moves me.

    (And Maggie Cheung in those cheongsams, but, uhm, yeah.)

    I suppose this is my answer then: I like films that move me, make me laugh, touch me and make me wonder, even after it’s all done and over.

  5. sulee

    hahahaha tsk tsk tsk, after all a guy is a guy - (zat you in maggie cheung’s cheong sam)

    I asked that coz i know alot of friends denied or being very defensive about liking certain kinda movies- coz they will be refered as gay or dai B!

    Maybe the kinda movie we prefer will in a way judge our personalities, sorry i shouldnt use judge, i mean define?

    I like horror movies. in particular, Hide and Seek, movies that mess with your mind, make you go “ahhhhhh” at the end. (or simply damn pissed off coz there werent any ghost!haha)

    Watch “Fight club” is very good! psycho but good!

    For now, Borat is my favourite coz is actually a documentary to see how Ali G mess with other’s mind. Their mind got messed and we laugh at it. Si beh mean right?

  6. Kenny Mah

    sulee,
    O you make me laugh, you do! I don’t mind chick flicks really, the ones which are good anyway. (The first one mentioned here, I liked it more than the girls, haha.)

    I don’t go for genres — action, drama, horror, chick flick, arthouse — semua boleh so long as they are good, or at least, if I like them and think they’re good. Everything is quite subjective lah.

    Fight Club: Love it, David Fincher is a genius. Can’t wait to see his new film Zodiac.

    Ah, Ali G/Borat/Sacha — the man is, well, I don’t think we have the necessary words in the English language to describe him. But si beh mean is correct, most amusingly so. Heh.

  7. sulee

    si beh means very in hokkien! wah si hokkien lang!

    oh yea he’s sexy too! with his psycho eyes, i found him sexier than Brad Pitt in fight club. zodiac eh, will definately check it out…

  8. Argus

    Yay, some other folk like ‘Fight Club’ and get it, too. The genius is the author Chuck Palahniuk (read his ‘Choke’ - has the funniest sex scene I’ve ever read!). Loved Ed and Helena Bonham Carter; Brad was just OK.

    Sulee, Borat is sexy?! Heh heh heh. The scene of him fighting with the paunchy guy in the nude in their hotel room was too funny. The black box censoring his privates was extra long, you noticed?

    Kenny, your catty comments were hilarious.

  9. kak teh

    kenny, yes, yes, yes, they filmed The Wedding date in London - and one scene - to be exact in front of Jimmy Choo’s shop in Connaught Street. I was there - went in and who was at the end of those famous slender legs? Debra Messing! Needless to say,I had to take pix with her - for the children, u understand? and of course, i had to blog about it!

  10. sulee

    P/S: Im crazy about all the italian maffia movies. Godfather1,2,3 (classic!), goodfellas, Casino, soap opeara Sopranos.

    Big fan of Al Pacino and Robert De Niro

  11. Msiagirl

    I read a review of Catch and Release and it struck me why you liked it - it is more about connections and how friendships anchor us. The reviewer was a man and I enjoyed what he said: http://www.tollbooth.org/2007/movies/candr.html

    Sometimes we do worry a lot about how people will judge us by our movie and reading taste. I just look at it as a fun barometer of the things we have in common and the things we can debate - both enjoyable. I have very eclectic taste, I will watch most things and read all things (but as a Mum, rare time to sit on a sofa and actually achieve such leisure plus too tired to think!) - I simply find myself enjoying how it makes me feel and perhaps wondering what the emotional lesson was here for me. In the Mood…is the only WKW film I’ve seen, amazing…and yes, really got back into liking cheongsam’s after that! ;) The other film I love is Dangerous Liaisons the social tension and plotting is so intense…and who doesn’t enjoy seeeing Uma Thurman in all her young glory!

    sulee, how is si beh different from chin ja in hokkien? My hokkien very rustylah!

  12. Kenny Mah

    Argus,
    I remember reading a Chuck Palahniuk short story involving a kid pleasuring himself in a swimming pool and, er, its consequences. Can’t recall the title of the story, but I won’t ever forget the story. It’s burned into my brain permanently. One major OUCH. Incredible writer.

    Besides Fincher the director, I admire the cast of Fight Club too, especially Edward Norton. His performances are always interesting, quite often brilliant. His 25th Hour remains one of my all-time favourite films. (Of course, it’s not just him, but the other actors and the director Spike Lee. A team effort at its best.)

    I actually haven’t seen Borat the movie yet. But you guys are all whetting my appetite badly. Bummer.

    Cat-ty comments? Surely you did not pun on purpose, did you? ;)

  13. Henry

    If Hollywood ever found a formula for making a really really romantic movie, it is probably lost in the remakes, spin-offs, ripoffs and piracy.
    (Still digging through movie titles on imdb.com)

  14. Henry

    Already seen Borat, don’t ever want to see it again.

    It is really really really horrible, I tell you. You don’t have to watch it to believe it.

  15. Kenny Mah

    Kak Teh,
    O I’m so gonna search your archives for that blog entry! She’s divine, of the most natural comediennes in the business today, nothing too forced or overarching. She reminds us what it’s like to be normal even if people think you’re so much better than you feel you are, especially on those blue-and-down days.

    I love how we all can find all these little connections with each other. I will so visit you one day in London, my dear. It’d be an experience of a lifetime — utterly different from when I was there myself alone years past. This would be with a most excellent friend, you see, which, really, is all I’m blogging about here.

  16. Kenny Mah

    sulee,
    You sound like such a Mafia-o-phile lah! :D
    Most of those films you mentioned are directed by Scorcese. How did you find his latest The Departed or his other non-mafia films like The Aviator and The Age of Innocence?

    And yes, I can’t disagree with you — Pacino and DeNiro are the greats of the modern generation of actors. Pacino’s up next in Soderbergh’s Ocean’s Thirteen; from the trailer alone it looks like a laugh/thrill-a-minute. And O they’ve added Ellen Barkin! The living evidence of the allure of older women…

  17. ∙ enar arshad ∙

    kenny,

    i just love in the mood for love.

    it is so beautiful and so sad and i bawled my eyes out watching it.

  18. Kenny Mah

    Msiagirl,
    Thank you for the link to the review. This stood out for me:

    One element I like about this film that may bother many is that it isn’t just about one character. It also looks into the lives of all those around Gray. These are guys who lost their best friend, a mom who lost a loving son. It would be shallow to think that this death affected only the central character.

    The film does well at giving you a glimpse at different coping methods. Subtly. And in the end the main method is forgiveness and giving. Giving out of your loss in order to be made whole.

    Yeah, that’s it. That’s what hit me.

    I love Dangerous Liaisons too, and I shall reserve my comments on the lovely nubile Uma Thurman, except that I too was much younger when I first saw this film, almost too young! :)
    And it’s this mix of different tastes — this is what makes the world such an interesting place to be in. If ever I did feel like it’s all too much and that leaving this plane would be a decent idea, I hold back cos, in the words of Mr. Steve Tyler, “I don’t wanna miss a thing.”

    No, sir-ree, I don’t. Not one nanosecond of it.

  19. Kenny Mah

    Henry,
    I’m not sure that Hollywood hasn’t already done that. Or if not Hollywood, some of the smaller film producers. What is your idea of a really really romantic movie? :)
    Off the top of my head, I can think of several I love:

    * Serendipity
    * Love, Actually
    * In the Mood for Love
    * The Piano Teacher
    * Lake House
    * Lost in Translation
    * Before Sunrise, and
    * Before Sunset

    I guess I am a sucker for love films after all. No need to shy-shy about it. O you guys would be surprised at what I like (and what I don’t).

    And aiyo, you pulak tell me Borat tak bagus. Make me wanna watch it even more, haha…

  20. Kenny Mah

    Enar,
    I know what you mean — it’s one of those doomed love affairs, and if one has seen its prequel Days of Being Wild (where we see a young Maggie Cheung learn first hand the lessons of love’s many inconstancies) and its sequel 2046 (where an older Tony Leung deals with his loss by shagging everything in sight but never really getting over her), one returns to In the Mood for Love feeling even more miserable than before.

    In a good way.

    For surely this is what cinema can do for us, do to us — the best of cinema, that is — tear us this way and that, make us weep and wonder and dream about lost chances and impossible love for days after; the nights a memory that taint us for years.

    This is a good thing, a great thing: It’s how we realise what it is like to be human, to be alive. These geniuses just managed to put it to film. And writers have been doing this for even longer, pen to paper, scralls on scrolls that teach us everything.

    Sighs. I wanna watch it again now. You people, you.

  21. Msiagirl

    Mmm…John Cusak - I like most all his stuff!

    Must read some Chuck P, then.

    Syabas on loving life, my friend. :)
    Yeah, Dangerous Liaisons just gives my age away, huh! Has it been almost 20 years…eek!

    Hope you do come to England one day, Kak Teh and I will show you good time ;)

  22. ∙ enar arshad ∙

    yeah…the film contained so many what ifs and the ending was so sad because she was actualy just behind the door.

    kismet……

    love actually is both funny and the most sad scene was when the wife discover the husband falling for some one else, no words just expressions.

    and i have to confess, tony leung is another good reason to watch that movie over and over again.

  23. Kenny Mah

    Msiagirl,
    Yes, John Cusack’s another one. He may not be as “critically acclaimed” as Norton (whatever that means), but he’s very consistent too. And that’s admirable in an industry where most will strike it big one time and crash afterwards with really bad choices.

    20 years? Really? I suppose so then. Gosh I must have been real young when I first saw it on VHS, cos it was only a few years after the theatrical release. Goodness knows who smuggled the copy in; no friendly neighbourhood DVD sellers then… ;)
    As for visiting England, will do, my dear. One day… :D

  24. Kenny Mah

    Enar,
    That’s why I mix up my chick flicks and my arthouse flicks — tragic endings and happily ever afters. This way we survive the weepies.

    I think Tony Leung and Maggie Cheung are just amazing. They have such diversity, but this film was like wham! pow! chemistry! And all while maintaining a slow burner intensity that never quite erupts. I once described it to a friend that it’s like being teased by a lover without getting off, and he replied, where’s the fun in that?

    O if only he knew…

    Love, Actually: That scene with Emma Thompson and Joni Mitchell’s “Both Sides Now” playing in the background. Yeah. Sad too, but uplifting is another scene when Mark Strong finally expresses his love to Keira Knightley even though they both know it’s never meant to be. The one that goes like this:

    [on sheets of poster board] With any luck, by next year - I’ll be going out with one of these girls. [shows pictures of beautiful supermodels] But for now, let me say - Without hope or agenda - Just because it’s Christmas - And at Christmas you tell the truth - To me, you are perfect - And my wasted heart will love you - Until you look like this [picture of a mummy] Merry Christmas.

    And didn’t all you girls want to be Aurelia when Colin Firth proposed in very poor Portuguese? :)

  25. Argus

    Kenny, the terribly mind-branding story by Chuck P is named ‘Guts’ - he’s even cheeky and punny and economical with his titles. It’s found in his ‘Non Fiction’ book. The stories in there are so incredible it’s hard to believe they are all real. Even his ‘travel book’ “Refugees (something-something) in Portland, Oregon” is just amazing - makes you wanna visit there. The only book of his I haven’t read is ‘Lullaby’ and it’s on its way to me from the Deutsch Amazie (p&h free, yippee!).

    ‘Borat’ is something very stupid but funny which you can watch semi-drunk with a few crazy friends who will cackle till their spaghetti comes out through their nostrils. ;-D

  26. sulee

    when i said sexy i was refering to Edward Norton himself, not BORAT!!! havent watch The Departed yet but i read the review n it sounds like hk movie ” moukandou”, neither have i watched any of those movies you mentioned, Aviator? I dunno any movies by Dicarprio kinda threw me off, so i didnt bother :P
    I select movie base on the mafia-ness. haha, I fell in love with Al Pacino from God father, it took me a while to like that movie coz is really draggy. and the first De Niro movie i ever watched is “Meet the Parent” he was a goofball.

    I started my DVD collections and im reaching 100 of them! I will look those up and keep those suggestions coming! thanks!

    Msiagirl- they both mean the same, just different way of expressing it. Or will often used by different kampung of hokkinen?

  27. spiffy

    Kenny, Kenny…

    Coerced u to go watch movie with me(us)? My violent streak towards the male members of society?? Aighh..If i’m forever single after this, it’s all your fault! Hmmpph!

    I’m glad you enjoyed the movie more than us, at least i knoe that nothing went to waste. =P Well, if u were to put it that way..i do agree that i enjoyed the scenes with Kevin Smith in it. There were really hilarious! Like you said, it’s a guy flick! Not a chick flick, no no no.. definitely not a chick flick.

    P/S: i honestly don’t know how Felicia & Hex will react to you calling them darling creatures. LoLzz…!

    PP/S: There is no ‘Maybe.’ Hahaha… If there is, confirmed..no one will want me. You wouldn’t want that do you. =P

  28. sc

    what an interesting post, a rojak (in a good way ;p) of sorts, from movies, to cats and weekends spent. hilarious too!
    Am a sucker for romance movies(most women are), my faves are Love, Actually (d poster board part is so, so sweet & poignant); My Best Friend’s Wedding (who could forget Rupert Everett singing Say a lil Prayer?, and creme brulee wanting to be jello..hehe); Bridget Jones and Pride & Prejudice (for Mr Darcy and Mr Darcy, and dry brit humour)..could watch those over and over again..hehe..

    oh dear, and I have Borat at home in which my friend insisted I should watch (he’s a fan of Jackass..hmmm).. wonder should i ever watch it?

  29. patlow

    mulroney was drool-worthy in the wedding date

    just a thought ;)

  30. Kenny Mah

    Argus,
    Thanks for the title, and recommending more Palahniuk — I’m especially intrigued by the ‘travel book’. I googled the full title, which is “Fugitives and Refugees: A Walk in Portland, Oregon (Crown Journeys)” — I’m a sucker for anything with a long title plus subtitles and parentheses.

    And how did you get free shipping from Amazon.de? You must have your special ways, bro. ;)
    Spaghetti coming out through nostrils? Semi-drunk, cackling, crazy friends. Dude, those are some of my favourite things in the world, haha…

  31. Kenny Mah

    sulee,
    The Departed is based on the Hong King film Infernal Affairs or Mou gaan dou, so you’d be right.

    Give DiCaprio a chance. I’m one of the fortunate ones to have caught his pre-Titanic performances in smaller, independent films (e.g. What’s Eating Gilbert Grape?), so I know the man can act when he’s not busy making money and dating supermodels.

    Honestly his performance in Scorcesse films have been some of the best of his adult career. Scorcesse has that effect on actors. Just ask Pacino, heh heh.

    May your DVD collection grow ever the more with films you love!

  32. Kenny Mah

    spiffy,
    I did correct myself, right? Invite, invite — mana ada coerce?

    A guy flick? Ya, definitely more guys than chicks. I think it’d be more appropriate to call it a buddy movie. All a man needs is his good ol’ buds — friendships to last a lifetime.

    I want Kevin Smith as my beer buddy. Man is the coolest, I tell you, the coolest. Anyone else loved Clerks? :)

  33. Kenny Mah

    sc,
    That’s the perfect word to describe this post, and indeed my entire blog — rojak! A hodge-podge of everything and anything I happen to be interested in at any one time. Definitely rojak in a good way. ;)
    For Mr. Darcy and Mr. Darcy? Wah, when you ladies fall for the guy, you ladies really fall for the guy. Jane Austen sure knew what she was doing, eh?

    On Borat: If you like Jackass, my guess is you’d love this; if you don’t, what the hey, try lah all the same. Tak cuba, tak tau, kan? :D

  34. Kenny Mah

    Pat,
    You weren’t the only girl considering your drool options; Nisa had her eyes glued to the screen each time Mr. Mulroney came on. And when he got in the shower…

    Ah, who am I to point fingers? We are ALL shallow, shallow beings and darned proud of it! :)

  35. Andrew Ho

    u r a literature guy…..and u cant run from it.

  36. wmw

    Mr Darcy??? My sis and I are in love with Colin Firth (my sis’s more in love with him though)…Haven’t caught these movies yet.

  37. Despite sometimes feeling the pressures of appearing intellectual to others, I unashamedly devour chick lit and chick flicks. Started off with Bridget Jones Diary (way before it became a movie) and I’ve never looked back since. :-) I have now got quite a sizeable collection of books and DVDs. Btw, I actually suffered through Borat…the naked scene was scary. Couldn’t sleep for days.

  38. ∙ mar ∙

    “Ow! Ow! That’s my breast, you moron!” (To Kata the cat, who hasn’t been de-clawed yet. Nisa believes in talking to her cats. In her own cat language. We get stares from the neighbouts.)

    “Who cut your hair?” — and Jason replies, “The gardener.”

    Haha…I was just dropping by and those made me laugh. Needed that. Thanks! =)

  39. Kenny Mah

    Andrew,
    Eh, I got long legs what, who says can’t run from it? ;)
    Aiya, literature guy, then literature guy lor… Whatever you say, bro. You’re the boss man, what.

    wmw,
    Hahaha, you’d be like a couple of sisters in a Jane Austen novel fighting over the same guy, be it Darcy or Firth.

    Claws out! *mmrwoaarrr* :D

  40. Kenny Mah

    Lyrical Lemongrass,
    Ya ha… got chick lit some more, forgot about that. First we lit, then we flick? ;)
    Gosh, I’m not making any sense anymore, am I? Need sleep…

    And I’m getting two sides on the whole to-watch-or-not-to-watch Borat issue. What to do, leh?

    mar,
    Anything to make you laugh. Best part is they really said those things. I was surfing on my laptop at the time and quickly wrote it down before I forgot. Classic lah my friends… :D

  41. zewt

    Hey Kenny…. chicks asking you to watch chick flicks eh? well… i guess one doesnt need to be a hottest blogger nominee in order to be ‘hot’… know what i mean?

    oh… you defended me at andrew ho’s! thanks bro… but you’re right… i was being sarcastic and of all people, he failed to read through it.

  42. Kenny Mah

    Zewt,
    Brother, maybe it’s not so much I’m ‘hot’ as in the chicks punya boyfriends all not available that night, haha… I’m like a substitute player called in at the eleventh hour! :D
    As for the sarcasm bit, no worries. I don’t think I really defended you anymore than I defended Andrew at Su Lee’s blog. I believe everyone is mature enough to stand for what they wrote and able to defend themselves.

    I just wanted to help clarify matters the way I saw it, from another perspective. I might be wrong in both cases, right? Andrew and you might have been serious and not sarcastic at all; so while I can’t represent either of you, I can offer my read of the situation.

    Nasib baik I was spot on both times. I really like both your blogs (you guys are more similar than you might realise) so don’t fight-fight and play nice, okay? (Not that I’m saying anyone is fighting… aiyo, so many disclaimers, can die lah me!)

    So says Ah Pek Mah…

  43. ∙ enar arshad ∙

    just had a bad day….need to watch something weepy…….

  44. sulee

    fight? what? nobody is fighting, oh come on thats ol school! so u can sit back and relax now…

    we just been throwing different voices out in the air, but in the end, is all good man!

  45. wah andrew comments come all the way here sommore ar..aiyah to me..he was being obnoxious..abit like 5Xmom..but oh well its his blog not our blog..so hes free to do wat he wants lor..

  46. spiffy

    Now, now…i gotta clarify matters. Hex’s bf couldn’t possibly join us cause he’s not in the country(Hex told me: overseas) and Felicia’s bf is well, most of the time bz(that’s why she’s always my movie buddy) and my bf..Hmm..”Hello!! Where are you? Come out come out, wherever you are..!”

    I’m hurt! Calling urself a substitute player at the 11th hour..=(

  47. Kenny Mah

    Enar,
    Something weepy, you say? Might I recommend Steel Magnolias or Beaches? Boxes of tissue not included.

    sulee,
    Old School? Ah my age is showing again…

    lotsofcravings,
    I think that’s the most important point to remember — it’s his blog after all. We can’t dictate his content, nor should we try to. But we are free as to how we, each of us, view his content.

    Freedom of expression coupled with mutual respect is a fine, fine thing. French philosopher Voltaire once said, “I disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it.”

    True that.

    spiffy,
    Correct what, all three of your boyfriends missing in action, so I’m replacement ma, haha.

  48. “Stop playing with yourself!”

    Good Lord, Kenny. This made me laugh (and completely upturned my opinion of you in three seconds flat. That halo over your head? Trick of the light, that’s all.) And then “spanking the cat”? How much innuendo CAN you fit into one blog post? ;)
    Also, I haven’t received your email yet la. It was nothing pressing, but I’d still like to get in touch man. Shall I drop you a line at that address you gave me?

  49. Oh, one more thing. I can never see any pictures on your blog (AND I’m using FireFox, not ol’ Granny IE). Is there something I’m doing wrong?

  50. Kenny Mah

    The Angry Medic,
    Definitely a trick of the light. Don’t know where some of you got the idea I’m all holy-moly from. Haven’t you guys read some of my stories?? :D
    And I never realised that about “spanking the cat” till you pointed it out. To be fair, he really did spank the cat’s ass. And Kata the cat apparently enjoyed it. Weird human-animal relationship, I know, but then, I’m not the one keeping pets.

    I have sent the email twice actually and it returns me with a delayed notice a couple times, then delivery failure. So do email me instead. Unless the email addie you’ve been using to comment here is not the one you use, maybe?

    As for pics, I use FireFox religiously and I see them obviously. Hmm, maybe the bandwidth ran out? How much traffic am I getting these days, I wonder?

  51. ∙ enar arshad ∙

    kenny,

    i have watched both movies and both are extreme weepy inducer…..especially beaches.
    all the best for your readings event

  52. Kenny Mah

    Enar,
    Ya asked for weepy; I give ya weepy… But, yes, these two are major tearjerkers, ain’t they? One could also argue they are major bitchfests, but let’s not go there… These are some of my favourite actresses, after all.

    Thanks, I hope the reading goes well too. :)

  53. Eliza D

    I hope your reading went well Kenny. Good session this morning! Interesting that you found the chick flick enjoyable and can admit it! Best chick flick for me is While You Were Sleeping. I can still watch that movie (watched it seven times but this was years ago). I quite liked Thirteen going on Thirty, another Jennifer garner movie, too. Nothing wrong with fluff, as long as it’s believable in at least a few areas!

  54. Kenny Mah

    Dear Eliza,

    It was lovely catching up with you again this morning at BC3! The reading, well, I’ll blog about it soon, but it did go okay, I suppose. Didn’t fumble or anything… the audience was very supportive so I’m one lucky bugger.

    13 Going On 30? We duplicated the Thriller dance scene from the movie at a mixer some years back. Theme was Halloween’s and I was dressed up like Two-Face! It took FOUR girls to make up my hair and face, each half, of course! ;)

  55. Zaty

    the last quote… is quite disturbing. lol

    aih. i *used* to really love chic flicks, but now i’m pretty dazed by them. pretty much like chic lits la… predictable plots and quirky twists here and there a a nice dash of sarcasm and/or wit. but that’s basically it i guess.

    i’l leave my hopeless romantic tendencies/thoughts to my japanese comics aka manga, or at least ‘more serious’ romance films.

    now, when it comes to movies, throw me a matrix or jurassic park or lotr and i’m in =D

  56. Kenny Mah

    Zaty
    Don’t worry about the last quote — in was in reference to Kata the Cat, hehe.

    No more chick flicks? Me wonders what ‘more serious’ romance films you are referring to, though I have a list of my own… Before Sunrise, Before Sunset, The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind comes to mind (the “sun” in the titles purely a coincidence).

  57. Spiffy

    speaking of films.. u still owe me 2 movies, Kenny my friend! Hmmppphh!! =P

  58. Kenny Mah

    Spiffy
    Aiyo, do I? How come two? Like this I owe so many people movie dates leh… Maybe I should organise one big movie session for all the bloggers? :lol:

  59. Spiffy

    eh eh…. not movie date. The 2 dvds that u were supposed to lend to me. haha…

  60. Kenny Mah

    Spiffy
    Oh ya… “Before Sunrise” and “Before Sunset”… Will do, though if you happen to spot them first somewhere, you should so grab these DVDs… they are classics! :D

  61. Spiffy

    yes yes, will do.. you’ve been telling me bout this 2 movies for so long…. they must be good! ^_^

  62. Kenny Mah

    Spiffy
    They are, they are! :D

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