After ten

I like this quiet time that I have with my journal (to write in) and a decent novel (for reading, for sleep inducement). It’s after ten in the evening and I have time to myself. Time for myself. No more office work. No more freelance work. No more work, period.

This is about learning to make space for resting and decompressing. Otherwise the unreleased stress from the day will just build up and fester. It does, even when we are unaware of it (or when we are aware but refuse to admit its existence).

Deciding to switch off my computer by ten every night is a start. Still too soon, I wager, to insist on doing yoga breathing exercises before bed too, or bed by eleven; one step at a time tends to work better, I find. I will learn to take things slowly.

Certainly I’m learning to let go of spending all my after-office hours online. It’s hard not to get sucked in by one social media outlet after another. Then the hours slip by, disappear. The time that I did have, say between seven and ten, I could have cooked dinner from scratch, performed a few house chores, and more. I could have started writing and reading earlier.

It’s never too late to start.

Now, what’s a good book to read in bed?

12 Responses

  1. Jon Bell January 21, 2013 / 3:58 am

    I’m really enjoying How Music Works by David Byrne.

    • Kenny January 21, 2013 / 8:06 pm

      That sounds intriguing. A recent release, yes?

  2. Michelle January 22, 2013 / 12:24 am

    Nothing beats actually “deciding” to make more time for ourselves. I’m glad we both seem to be on the same page with this one.

    I’m reading Ali Smith these days, There but for the, quite good I must say. I have a Rushdie by the bedside for when I’m done with Ali Smith. =)

    • Kenny January 22, 2013 / 7:25 am

      I’m rereading my AS Byatt as well as a collection of travel stories (a Christmas gift from last month). Bedside reading can tell so much about a person, no?

      I’m doing my best to start every morning with vigour and a brilliant smile, to greet the fantastic day that lies ahead … The thought, the intention, I’ve discovered, does count.

      Have a terrific Tuesday, my dear!

    • Michelle January 22, 2013 / 10:28 pm

      Your way of starting the day reminds me of what a friend told me a couple of months ago. We were working on a movie set, so we had very early morning starts, and she would greet everyone (even if it was still 5.30am and everyone was still super sleepy) with a loud “Good morning!” and a big smile. She said it helped keep her in a good mood for the rest of the day, and it helped get us all in a better mood too.

      I tried it out later, it worked. =)

    • Kenny January 23, 2013 / 7:09 am

      I’m going to do that too, and not wait till I get into the office, but greet my bedroom, my kitchen, my home with a loud and resounding “Good morning!” the moment I get up. Hurrah!

  3. Choi Yen January 22, 2013 / 11:38 am

    Switch off PC at 10pm is almost impossible for me >.< Every night I wish I can sleep earlier but I just failed to do that *tsk tsk*

    • Kenny January 22, 2013 / 5:53 pm

      We all have our own schedules and thresholds — I guess it’s just about adjusting in the direction of what makes us feel better the next day?

  4. luuworld January 22, 2013 / 9:13 pm

    ah, we have the same outlook on life kenny. every time i make to to write in my journal or read a book…it’s like conditioner for the soul!

    however, you’re more advanced than me when it comes to relaxing. i don’t know yoga breathing, and i don’t have the self discipline to turn off the computer when i know i’ve spent way too much time online.

    • Kenny January 22, 2013 / 9:20 pm

      I’m not as disciplined as I’d like to be … but I am trying. *winks*

  5. Vern January 23, 2013 / 3:03 pm

    Wonder by R.J. Palacio is a must-read.

    • Kenny January 23, 2013 / 10:19 pm

      Thanks for the recommendation, dear!

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